After spending many childhood years trying to pray the gay away, I’m glad that now this part of my identity has become the center of my social and professional life. The exact thing that I thought my life would be better without, is the exact reason my life is better today.
Gay men have unique struggles before and after coming out. My focus is on the struggles after coming out, namely self-esteem and relationships. After talking to many gay men in Los Angeles who seem to have it all, I wish they were able to see that for themselves. Since gay men grow up not feeling like they’ll ever be enough no matter how hard they work, it makes sense that this mentality continues into adulthood.
Helping gay men break away from that “never enough” mentality is what I enjoy most about being a gay life coach. The more compassion we show ourselves, the more compassion we can show each other. When I notice my clients having similar realizations, it’s exciting for them and me. It reminds me of how it used to feel as a third grade teacher when my class had their “aha moment” in multiplication.
Each client comes with unique goals and challenges. Each week we make progress on broad desires such as “I want to feel better” with step-by-step actions to get there. I use my experience as a template, but often the client is able to think of their own path to success which I fully encourage. Halfway through our 3 month program, I feel like I’m talking to a whole new person. People say being a teacher is one of the most fulfilling jobs, but being a third grade teacher does not compare to being a life coach for a community that I care so much about.
Being a gay life coach is my calling, I hope my passion is clear in everything I do. I feel the excitement with my daily Instagram posts, this blog, in-person events, or my focused clients. I hope you are able to break away from any mentalities that are holding you back. If you would like extra support, you’re welcome to schedule a free welcome call with me to decide if life coaching is right for you.